Misgendering refers to addressing or referring to someone using pronouns or gender terms that don't align with their gender identity. In some debates, particularly around transgender youth, questions have arisen about whether consistent misgendering by parents should be considered a form of emotional abuse and grounds for loss of custody. Proponents argue that persistent misgendering can cause significant psychological harm to transgender children, and in severe cases, may justify state intervention to protect the child’s well-being. Opponents argue that removing custody over misgendering infringes on parental rights, may criminalize disagreement or confusion over gender identity, and could lead to overreach by the state into family matters.
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@ISIDEWITH4 days4D
No
@B4L8YVT 2 days2D
If you had a hobby that you deeply cared about and wanted to go into as a job and your family called you worthless for it and that you should go into an actually "good" career. Would you be happy? Gender is a part that builds you much like a favourite hobby and for someone to reject that is cruel.
@B4LLFY42 days2D
You are robing your child of their birthrights and their ability to live their life the way God made them to be. If you have the mindset to do something so cruel, how can you be trusted in raising this child in a healthy environment? I believe that parents should lose custody for intentionally misgendering their child.
@ISIDEWITH4 days4D
Yes
@B4LLFY42 days2D
Parents should lose custody for intentionally misgendering their child because you are setting them up for a life of confusion, failure, mental and physical health problems. You are essentially putting their life at risk.
@B4KZYKT3 days3D
I do not agree with that at all but that should not mean they have there child kidnapped. It is there child .
@B4L35DBNew Democratic3 days3D
Not lose custody but I think there should be some repercussions to this. It will affect the child’s mental health in a negative way.
@B4LCS542 days2D
Losing custody is too severe. But intentionally misgendering a child at birth or before the child can speak for themselves is not right. It should not be allowed, possible or even given as an option.
@B4LBD5X2 days2D
No, but the parents must be held accountable for their actions and should be educated. A child loosing a parent and entering the foster care system/social system harms the child and is not a positive or productive solution.
@B4LBJPC2 days2D
like they shouldn't lose custody because its not like abuse but they should be put in like a parenting class and learn to respect there child no matter what
@B4LH76L2 days2D
No, but there should be more resources and options for the child, like access for them to call someone to help them talk to their parents and if the parents don’t respect that then further actions could be in place
@B4LKBD42 days2D
Case by case - this is more nuanced. I believe parents should call children their preferred names and gender
@B4LL2P82 days2D
No, but it should be noted, and potentially investigated for abuse in other aspects of the child's life
@B4LP6BK2 days2D
If the child is below the age of 16 and is trying to you have a choice but over 16 you should follow what they ask for
@B4LZ3J41 day1D
I think there needs to be more nuance here to consider what is best for the child considering how useless our foster care is in helping kids
@B4LT4952 days2D
While misgendering your child is terrible I don’t think it alone should be enough reason for a parent to lose custody. If a parent misgenders their child along with other forms of abuse then they definitely should.
@B4M2Q3L1 day1D
Hard to agree because for some foster care might be even worse than their parents so in terms of harm reduction I'm unsure
@B4M4Y521 day1D
Parents should be mandated to meet with a family councillor to evaluate the instance of abuse outside of misgendering. If the parents attempt to forcefully restrict the child’s self determination in other ways, then removal could be considered.
@B4KHYS53 days3D
Losing custody is too severe there should be some other short of punishment to ensure that it won't happen again. However if the new punishment happens to the same person multiple times then they should lose custody.
@B4KTPCKNew Democratic3 days3D
No, but there should be some programs (or perhaps therapies) put into place that would assist and educate parents on LGBTQIA+ issues and the effects misgendering has on their child.
@B4K8DD73 days3D
If the child is of age they should receive a psychological evaluation to determine if social media has played a part in misgendering themselves,
@B4JY4P74 days4D
I think their could be an increase in social workers/programs that concerned school authorities/police/other family members could report concerns to for home checks to determine any abuse case or not (and if signs of abuse, then remove the child).
@B4KMQ3C3 days3D
Losing custody is extreme as a child being placed into the foster care system/in the care of another guardian due to this might not be a healthier situation for the child however, an issue like this should require education of the parents as doing this intentionally is incredibly harmful/invalidating for the child.
@B4KTDTR3 days3D
parents need education and children need safety. if both can’t be met, then child should be in a safe place away from said parent.
@B4KPXB73 days3D
It should be considered emotional abuse but removing custody should be a last resort, as in all child protection cases.
@B4KQVFG3 days3D
Education and therapy. Not taking the kids away and putting them in the system that hurts them as well.
@B4KR9Y83 days3D
Slippery slope to loose custody - but there needs to be better education around these issues so less parents are intolerant parents.
@B4KG6HT3 days3D
Losing custody seems harsh and family dynamics are complicated. I think it's wrong for a parent to do this, but losing custody seems like a third strike move
Parents should be given opportunity to educate themselves and work on accepting their child’s identity but children should be protected from emotional/physical stress. This depends on the situation and the child’s mental state.
This issue cannot be simplified to a one sentence statement. The parents don’t need to lose custody they need to be educated first.
@mintybudgie16hrs16H
yes and no
this is a little bit more of a yes and no situation, simply because in a way it seems fitting to make parents lose custody but it also seems way too harsh
@mintybudgie16hrs16H
yes and no
this is a little bit more of a yes and no situation, simply because in a way it seems fitting to make parents lose custody but it also seems way too harsh
@B4KXH4L3 days3D
If prolonged intentional misgendering then yes- serious risk of harm to child. Would need more parameters on this q.
@B4MYRBK10mins10m
They should not default lose custody, but this should be considered as a form of abuse that can be taken into consideration when discussing custody issues.
@B4KYCD23 days3D
This isn't inherently horrible, I believe if the process in which they continuously misgenger their child creating psychological turmoil then they should be taken away. But parents need time to change as well
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